In my crazy little head

I have been thinking ....

- the problem of having felt great love in life and losing it, is that all your future experiences will be benchmarked against that
- if ever there was an award for people who just don’t know what they want I would be the undisputed champion
- most of the times what is right for us and what we want is poles apart
-what can be more weird than when you go to wedding and you know the bride who you are meeting for first time is checking you out .... which leads me to the next one
- what if it happens to you at your own wedding and you see this person and there is an instant chemistry and you wonder did I get this right, haha this would be something with sweat flowing down your face and thinking ‘Oh my God what did i get into’

To be continued ....

In my crazy little head

I have been thinking that ……

~ sometimes no matter how positive you try to stay the sheer volume of problems can completely overwhelm you
~ music and movies can for a brief moment make you live a life you always dreamt off
~ there is no force stronger than the inner desire to change your life
~ there are no answers to some hypocrisies in society; like a promiscuous man will always be a playboy and a promiscuous woman will be a slut
~ people should stop hiding behind the phrase ‘shades of grey’ you can’t get a little pregnant, no point deceiving ourselves
~ true satisfaction is achieved when you know you are at 100% of your potential
~ true happiness is when you are convinced life has given you what you deserve
~ true power is when you have chance to mould and give direction to another life

to be continued .....

My second mom

This is about the time when i was away from home studying engineering in Pune. In my first year of engineering i had a major bout of malaria which was followed by jaundice. And living away from home meant eating in all possible unhygienic places which really didn't help my frequent failing health. So in my third semester of engineering i started frequenting my friend Vivek's house to get some good home made food. Vivek lived with his parents and an elder sister, they so much reminded me of my family back home so a visit to his place always cheered me up. But the person i really ended up getting attached to was his mom. What amazed me about her was her attitude and positiveness towards life. She was a very energetic and lively person. Compared to her me and Vivek seemed really dull. I always remember her egging me and Vivek to go out watch movies, date women etc. She always had one question to ask both of us "When are you guys going to have girl friends to take out". I remember the way she would affectionately make tea for me and chat up on whats happening with me never making me miss home once. She had the art of making people comfortable and at ease, an art very few today posses. She affectionately told my mom once when my parents were visiting me in Pune, that i was her second son and she would look over me. Some of the conversations are still fresh in my head, like the one time she told me "Jamshed you better marry someone who loves you a lot cause you are a very difficult person to please". She had a lot to do with me getting through my engineering years. A couple of months after i left Pune she made a trip abroad which possibly started her Kidney problem. Both her Kidneys were failing and she had started her dialysis treatment. Every visit back to Pune saw me looking at her deteriorating health. It really pained me to see someone so full of life in the jaws of a deadly ailment. Never once did i hear complain or crib about her situation, she faced it with grit, determination & always had a smile on her face. A year later she passed away.

Emotional Adultary

Whenever i hear or read about relationship problems and cheating in a relationship it usually all boils down to sex. People are concerned if their partner is sleeping with someone else. That seems to represent the proof of failure of a marriage or a relationship. Thats where i differ i believe the day you loose your emotional bonding with your partner its dangerous. The day they build emotional bonding with another person of the opposite sex its over. The emotional bonding that makes you think and predict the other person, the bonding that makes you confide in the other your deepest darkest secrets, the bonding that makes to put your needs aside for the other person. Its this emotional connection thats most important and with whoever its exists with is the person you really belong too.

10 Facts of life you must accept

1) There is nothing like a perfect relationship, marriage, friendship, and job. To run after perfection is like running after a moving target.
2) You can never get an upgrade to biz class if you don't take the risk to arrive late for a flight.
3) Presentation and looks are always more important than content.
4) The world will be always be full of superficial, pretentious and impressionable characters which you have to learn to deal with.
5) You need to necessarily blow your own trumpet.
6) Passion and intensity into anything always fades away.
7) You never will get what you want but get what you need.
8) Every human being is promised his 15 minutes of fame. The next 15 has to be slogged hard for.
9) This is for the men (including me) – Women are the superior creatures, there is no doubt here whose the boss.
10) No one in the world loves you more than your mother and never will.

This night

Give me just this night cause I need to lay down my head and cry
Give me just this night cause I am tired of loosing the people I love
Give me just this night cause I never really had a chance to tell you that I care
Give me just this night cause I am tired of being strong around you
Give me just this night cause I don’t want to go back to being lonely & confused
Give me just this night cause I want to run my fingers through your tangled hair hoping to untangle your mind
Give me just this night cause I want to promise you all of my life
Give me just this night cause I want to make a new beginning, a new beginning with you
Give me just this night

Celebrating Love
© Jamshed Wadia

Star Treck - The Final frontier

When i was a kid i was a huge fan of Star Treck. I remember waiting patiently for Captain Kirk and his team to show up on every Sunday at 10.30 am on national television and take me to a place where no man or woman (before anyone takes offense :)) had gone before. Well it just wasn't me but three buildings full of kids who went through the same phenomena. Well in those days one of the haunts that the kids hung out was my place. That didn't make my mom the most happiest person because of the constant noise and pranks that we played.

So the story goes like this - One thursday afternoon she decided go out and visit her sister and she specifically warned me not to call my friends over as she had just spent hours cleaning up the place. But for the brat i was i called seven of my buddies to play "Star Treck". So playing Star treck meant collecting all the possible electronic stuff in house and laying it on my king size bed and pretending it was the star ship enterprise. So the stuff that lay on the bed were a tape recorder, a video tape player, my video games, my telephone and some match box made transporters which were so very famous in Star Treck. For the unfamiliar the transporters were used by the Star Treck crew to talk to each other and help them 'beam in and out' of the Enterprise. So we were an hour into our space mission when the telephone on the bed rang. No one seemed to hear it but for one of my friends who picked it up. Incidently he was our space communicator who was responsible to pick up signals from other galaxies. So after a couple of hellos and speaking on the phone he taps me on my shoulder and with a straight face says "Captain i think we need to abort the mission and return to earth" so i asked him "Why? did you get a warning on the radio from the galaxy?" and he says "Worse, Its your mom on the phone, she is pissed and she says she is going to be here in the next 2o minutes".

Being a highly sensitive person

As we were growing up as kids my parents instilled a lot emphasis on having empathy for people. So we began the journey of being extremely sensitive creatures. What they didnot tell us then that it would be wrong to expect the same empathy and sensitivity from others. For many years i couldn't understand why most people could not have the same intensity for doing the right things. Being honest, sincere and never intentionally hurting someone was religion for me. And i always wondered why the world was way different from the values we were taught to believe. To me everything was black or white and never really understood the phrase "shades of grey". But as the years passed by i realised what my parents really meant by being sensitive towards people was that i have the maturity to accept people for who they are, understand their shades of grey, know that people can be different and can have different needs.

Pearl S. Buck, (1892-1973), recipient of the Pulitzer Prize in 1932 and of the Nobel Prize in Literature in 1938, said the following about Highly Sensitive People:

"The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this:

A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive.

To him... a touch is a blow,
a sound is a noise,
a misfortune is a tragedy,
a joy is an ecstasy,
a friend is a lover,
a lover is a god,
and failure is death.

Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create - - - so that without the creating of music or poetry or books or buildings or something of meaning, his very breath is cut off from him. He must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency he is not really alive unless he is creating." -Pearl S. Buck

One of my personal treasures

This email below is one of my personal treasures. I got this email sometime in late 2001 when i had just put up my quotations on the net. I tried my best to put a reply to it ...

(Have removed the name of sender)

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Hi Jamshed.

I have a 19 years old son in his second year of college. Recently, he asked me for an unusual Christmas gift. He asked me for 5 life’s good advice. In my eagerness to get inspiration I found your site. It was very good tips. But I want to ask for your opinion.

If you have only five good practical advice on life for a 19 year old man, what would they be?

Thank you very much

God Bless

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My Reply

Dear ----,

This is the sweetest and most comforting message I have ever received. Thanks so much for your compliments on my site. I am really touched by your son’s request and your eagerness to give him the right advice. I wish all parents over the world have the kind of relationship with their children.

Well coming to your request I will give you my top learning’s I think which I have gained out of my 28 years of living.

1. Believe totally in yourself. Don’t let any one ever tell you that you can’t do it. Never let anything discourage you from achieving your dream. You are the best.
2. Trust your instinct. Don’t be afraid of doing something different. Pursue a career in your line of interest even if it is as simple as painting. Your chances of success are better if you do something you love.
3. It very important to figure your idea of success. Is it money, fame, friends or anything else. Each one has a different definition of success. If you have this clear you can then mould your life towards that.
4. Invest in family and friends. Remember if you hug your money it never hugs you back.
5. Nothing is ever final. Everyone gats a second chance to mend ways and undo things. God allows U turns.

All the best ! God Bless ! and have a great life.

Warm Regards

Jamshed Wadia
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As thought and felt by a friend

There is possibly no emotion that has puzzled human’s more than the emotion of Love. And as we advance as a race technologically and in terms of knowledge of our surroundings the one emotion that gets more complicated is love. And as I look around the constant changing equations of love among families, couple’s, friend’s, parents and children it just proves to me the more we learn of love the lesser we really understand it. Some may argue that love is a state of mind but the fact still remains that a state of mind can change. And for those of us who are waiting for the bell of love to ring, is it worth the wait if it’s going to change sometime anyway. Do you let go of someone nice because of lack of love or do you hope that you will grow to love the person? What happens if life offers you ‘your love of a lifetime’ but by that time it’s too late? And life poses strange situations when you ask exactly the opposite set of questions at the same time.

I wish I knew what was going on in that head of yours
I wish I could read the beats of your heart
I wish I knew every secret hidden in the corners of your mind; know how to break down the barriers that separate me from knowing you; know the depths of your thoughts and feelings
I often wonder why you don’t let me in and let me touch and heal the deep wounds left behind
Why can’t you love me?

I wish I could tell you what is going on in that head of mine
How I wish that I would want you to read the beats of your heart; know every secret hidden in the corners of my mind; know how to break down the barriers that separate me from knowing you; know the depths of my thoughts and feelings
I often wonder why I can’t let you in and let you touch and heal the deep wounds left behind
Why can’t I love you?

Crazy little thing called love

As I saw you from a distance standing there struggling with your books; it felt the same way that I had imagined when I would see someone like you. And that moment my world seemed to stop, it’s as if I was in a trance and nothing else mattered but the site of your laughter and your long black hair dancing with cold winter breeze. As I walked to class I couldn’t shake away one thought, the thought of never seeing you again. And every moment I spent waiting for that ever illusive class bell it felt like eternity. Little I did I know they called this funny feeling as smitten in love. Somehow that night my assignments and deadlines didn’t matter, food had lost its taste and Lionel Richie sang like God. The new day brought with it the promise of searching for a name to match your face. And for some reason I now believe that any name would have sounded good to me. That day I walked passed your class seven times with the hope that you notice this guy who was trying to be cool but was loosing it in his head. Finally a name to your beautiful face made things even worse and made me walk 10 miles on my college terrace which was just 50 feet long. Walked and walked till I convinced my self to muster up the courage to go up and meet you. I climbed down to walk towards the library reminding my self of my decision to be brave. I am talking about being brave enough to meet you and not brave enough to return a book which was a month late. And as I stood in the line rehearsing my first words to you, a tap came on my shoulder from behind. Yes it was you as if you were God sent to put my misery to an end. And you said "Hey I have been looking for that book for a month, Can’t you return a book on time". :-))

Jamshed
Celebrating Love

As long as they play our song

As they played our song i gave you the stare across the room and you knew i wanted to dance.
But you flirted around as if to tease me but finally to be in my arms.
And as you lay our head on my chest i knew you wanted me to understand.
Understand the depth of your heart to see what others couldnot.
My warm breath on your ears blowing away gently your hair
Telling you how much i cared with every breath
In that moment i said everything i wanted to say to you without saying a word
And i knew you could hear the beat of my heart as you held my hand in yours
And as you looked into my eyes i could feel your endless love
Making our bodies move in a rhythm i never had experienced before
And though i know you will never be mine, that very moment you were only mine
And before saying goodbye i left a peck on your forehead to remind you of me forever
As long as they play our song
As long as there is love in your heart for me

Celebrating Love
© Jamshed Wadia

Touching

Having a bad day, feeling lonely, hurt, stressed out ...... Here is something that should inspire you and make you feel better...



The Interview with GOD

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I will be there to greet you

What must have God said to us as we descended for this stint at earth ~ Maybe this is how the conversation went

~ There will be times that man would wage war just because war is big business for him
~ There will be leaders and people who will exploit people on basis of religion and their emotional weaknesses for achieving their own personal goals
~ There will be people who will make false commitments to you, to use you for their own advantage
~ There will be situations where you will have to choose between what you believe in and what is necessary for the basic survival of yourself and your family
~ There will be instances where parents will sell their children so that they can afford their next meal.
~ And there will be children who in their zest to succeed and be comfortable will abandon their parents in their old age
~ There will be rich couples who will yearn for a child to take care off and the poor who would have children too many, with no food to feed them
~ You may find the love of your life only to lose them the next moment Or
~ You may be surrounded by people all your life but still feel empty inside
~ Great minds will invent technology to help mankind only to be misused by a few selfish individuals who will further divide the rich and poor
~ And there will be times you wonder if I ever exist, but I do and I will be there to greet you on judgment day if you have been a good soul

(c) Jamshed Wadia

In my crazy little head

If I were to summarize the reason for all the woes of living today this list would be it
~ Most people aren’t comfortable with their appearance today
~ Most people hate what they are doing at work
~ We have all forgotten how to give, its now all about how much we get
~ We can’t seem to settle down, we just get bored so easily of everything we do
~ We all have the urge to change the status quo but most of the time we don’t know how
~ We take most good things in our life for granted
~ We don’t care about the hearts that beat for us cause we are too busy chasing ones that don’t
~ Stability for us has become taboo, things have to be different cause we take the phrase “nothing is more constant than change” to literally
~ We believe that to enjoy the simple pleasures in life we must solve complex hurdles first
~ We abuse our bodies with all possible excesses and expect to be in perfect health

Place Holder Principle

The bug of social responsibility and a sense of what is right and wrong bit me very early in life. I would react possibly to everything wrong that I came across in my life. I just had to take a stand on everything until one fine day when I felt mentally exhausted. It’s only then when I realized that one needs to pick and choose their battles in life and pace them well. There is no point in biting on to more things that you can chew and eventually burning out. And whenever I did come across something that I felt strongly about but couldn’t do anything about I made a mental note of it. It was as I hade a place holder on that one problem. And later on eventually I did get a chance to do something about some of the problems I had put on hold. Not all of them but some of them. Not once am I suggesting that we should shirk our responsibilities I just feel that a person mentally and physically can’t fight too many battles at a time. I think it makes better sense to come back to some issues at a later date to deal with. I see a lot of socially responsible people eventually becoming very cynical about life and the system hence I think its best to follow the place holder principle. Not reacting right away to something is no reason to feel guilty about; life offers enough opportunities later on to change things. Just a thought.

Can't See the Moon tonight

Please come out tonight so that I can see the stars shine so bright
Please come out tonight as I am lost and need to see the light
Please come out tonight as I want to go out and see the world tonight
Please come out tonight so that I can face the shadow’s of life
Please come out tonight because I need a reason to start loving again
Please come out tonight so that I can ask my memories to stay back tonight
Please come out tonight and stay by window so I know I am not alone tonight
Please come out tonight and I won’t say word and I won’t hide .......... Let me just watch you tonight

© Jamshed Wadia